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Just cracked open Priscilla Shirer’s Resolution for Women and boy oh boy is it gonna be a doozy. From Part 1:

“When you’ve concluded that what you already have on hand is enough, that it’s adequate – that it’s been deemed by God as sufficient – then you’re equipped and empowered to participate fully in the tasks set before you during this season of life…Your God can be trusted to grant you the supply you need to excel at His purposes. So if you don’t have it – whatever it is- it’s because you don’t need it. You may want it, but it’s not necessary in order to accomplish what He knows is most important for your life today. Otherwise He’d have given it to you.” -Priscilla Shirer (also see 2 Cor 9:8)

It’s as simple as that folks.

One of the things that robs us of our happiness is ourselves. It’s our constant desire to want more. Or to want something different. Our current phase, our current state, our current car, our current bank account balance, is never enough. As a single, we want to be in a relationship. In a relationship, we want him to propose. When you get married, you’re already thinking about a bigger house. A promotion. Kids. We are never present in the moment. Which means we are not truly practicing contentment. Not being content is the only thing that can truly rob us of our peace.  Comparing ourselves to what the next person has (or what they claim they have on facebook, twitter, or instragram) doesn’t allow us to fully enjoy the blessings that God has given us at this very moment. Valorie Burton, author of a great book called Successful Women Think Differently, calls it the hedonic treadmill. And she implores us to get off of it.  Well, I for one don’t like treadmills anyway. All that huffing and puffing and getting tired but going nowhere.  But I digress…

It’s important for us to realize that we have enough. That we are enough. That whatever God has ordained as our purpose for this very moment, he has provided. We have enough to fulfill today’s purpose. By desiring more than we need we are wasting energy, precious energy that should be directed towards our purpose. We miss opportunities to make today better for us or for those around us when we are focused on tomorrow. We often say, “I need more money” or “I’ll do that when I get my life together.” But repeat after me – I AM ENOUGH. I HAVE ENOUGH. (Repeat 10 times infinity times or until you believe it. And then repeat it some more.)

Also note that this is not saying that you shouldn’t be expectant and move when God tells you to move. Quite the contrary – there is a balance. But you will never find that balance if you are only looking at tomorrow and not savoring the blessings of today.

In what area of your life does this apply to? Resolve to be content. Acknowledge that you have enough. (And go get this book! Only one section in and I already know it’s gonna be added to the Life Changing Bookshelf.)

Today’s musical selection brought to you by the fine folks at… well, I don’t know where they’re from. But, it’s a message that everyone needs to hear. Forreal!

What does this have to do with Wholly Single, you might ask? Well, it just reminded me of the So You Think You Want to Get Married class we took last year. Our facilitators strongly recommended that after you get married, deactivate your facebook for at least two years after you get married (they really said forever, but still).

And I kinda like that advice. What say you? Would you give up facebook (and all social media) for your marriage?

At first thought, it’s like well, sir, your marriage didn’t work. Why would I take marriage advice from you? But then you think about it some more and realize, hindsight is 20/20. It’s so much easier to look back and explain as opposed to making sense of the mess that you’re currently in. That said, this is some amazing advice from a divorcé after 16 years of marriage. Wow. Like, some bookmark, print it out and laminate it, read it once a month type advice. Head on over to the Love Story from a Male Perspective Blog to read “Beautiful Advice from a Divorced Man After 16 Years of Marriage.

Some of my favorite pieces of advice that he gives are that “It’s not your job to change or fix her” and to “Fill her soul every day” while topping it all off with the ultimate challenge: Commit to being an EPIC LOVER.

And although he’s addressed it to husbands, there were parts where he was talking directly to me. As if he were all up in my business, tapping my phones, spying on my thoughts. Sigh. I hear ya…

All of that to say, heck yeah I’d take marriage advice from a divorcé – or at least this one anyway. So go ahead and see why; click here to read the rest.

Image from the Original Post – go on over there!

Just finished reading Not a Fan by Kyle Idleman, so I want to share a few nuggets with you. Ironically, the first thing I’m going to share isn’t actually a quote by Kyle Idleman but by Larry Osborne. And it has to do with the way that we see God’s role in our lives. Many of us see him as a consultant and someone we go to as a “helper” in our lives as opposed to as the Lord of all in our lives. Now, God is many things. But consultant is not one of them. Listen up:

Now, a consultant is someone whose wisdom we highly value and listen to, but at the end of the day, we make the final decision. That’s why they’re called consultants. Here’s the problem: God doesn’t do consulting. Never has. Never will. He does God. When we treat him as consultant, he simply stops showing up for the meetings.

Well, ok, then Larry.

Feast on that folks. Happy Friday!

Once upon a time I was a voracious little reader. I would devour books. Finish them in days, with a never ending “to read” list.  All types of genres, all types of authors. Laugh out loud, self-help, travel-related, autobiographies, fictional dramas, all of that (loved me some Jodi Picoult). And then, one day, in came this monster known as… grad school (dun dun dunnnnn). Well, let me tell you. I don’t think I read a book not related to international education, organizational theory, or social change in the last two and a half years. So you don’t know how happy I am to be back reading. So happy in fact that I can’t read just one book at a time. Noooo… I am trying to do the absolute most. There are currently 4 books sitting on my nightstand. And I’m about to pick up another one from the library tomorrow. The most.

My current nightstand situation

My current nightstand situation

So here’s what I’m #nowreading:

1. Operating Instruction: A Journal of My Son’s First Year by Anne Lamott – LOVE the way this woman writes. I laugh out loud just enough to find it funny but not distracting (can funny ever really be distracting though?). I think the funniest part of all is that these are all true stories (this is about her figuring out how to raise her son – stories I’m sure many moms would be embarrassed to share).

2. Not a Fan by Kyle Idleman – Ok so I actually just finished this one. Awesome book that helps you distinguish between being just a Christian and an actual disciple of christ – “fan vs. follower.” Very insightful. I may have to share a few things from this one. (Started reading this one as part of the Starving Christians Online Book Club – check it out!).

3. Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient by Valerie Burton – This book is good. And practical. I actually don’t remember how I discovered it, but I don’t think I was expecting it to also include tenets on faith and scripture (though not a lot). Loving the coaching aspect of the book – especially as I prepare to enter this new season of my life professionally (details coming soon!).

4. The Circle Maker by Mark Betterson – I have been “reading” this book for weeks now. Which means it didn’t catch my attention from the first pages. I have been reading everything else except this one. But I hear it’s powerful. I am going to get back into this one soon! Or at least before it’s due back to the library….

Oh and the one I’m going to pick up tomorrow (not pictured):

5. The Resolution for Women by Priscilla Shirer – Y’all know Priscilla Shirer is my homegirl in my head. More like my really cool young aunt. But I have heard such phenomenal things about this book that I am going to start it immediately – even though I am still reading these other books. Don’t ask me how that’s going to work….

And of course every day, I’ve gotta get some Bible in there! Along with my Discerning the Voice of God Bible Study. So yeah, that’s what’s going on in my reading life. What about you? What is everyone else out there reading? Also, add me on goodreads so we can share book ideas! If you’re not on there, you should be!